10 Reasons Why I’m Not a Christian

Posted on May 21, 2020


I wrote recently about one of the reasons I left Christianity: it was harmful for my health.

However, as a thinking person, it was my passion for study–of the Bible and the religious practices–that made me aware of the BAD IDEAS upon which the religion stands that I cannot accept.

As a passionate, born-again Christian, I “church-hopped” to try to find a congregation with the fervor and worship style that matched my idealized notion of a sufficiently devoted crowd. I spent time as a member of American Baptist (in 2 cities), Assembly of God, United Brethren, non-denominational pentecostal, and First Weslyan.

Each group followed an identical pattern of behavior toward me, as an enthusiastic new convert: love-bombing me and my children, placing me among one or more church groups, calling upon me to take a leadership position, increasingly demanding more commitment from me, and finding fault with my performance of my–completely unpaid, volunteer, religious work–because I always asked questions. I always wanted to know more–because I wanted to be sure that what was happening was “Biblical,” “pleasing to the Lord,” and ethical.

For me, the pattern of the relationship with each congregation played out the same each time, like bad romances. The love-bombing would make me feel like I had “found my people,” then bit by bit, I would see and hear things that troubled me, because they dehumanized and/or harmed people, and my questions would be entertained to a certain point–but eventually, I would begin to feel a chill in the air, and I would be counseled to pray for stronger faith. Finding myself swimming in a sea of dehumanizing ideas and unethical behavior would cause me to feel disillusioned, until, after immersing myself in intense Bible study, I came to understand that the reason why the Christians around me were not concerned about violations of human and civil rights: the God at the center of the religion is a monstrosity. There is no warmth, care, compassion, or any other admirable trait to be found in this deity. After four and a half years of non-stop Bible study and service to church congregations, I was faced with the painful realization that the entire religion is based on dehumanizing, harmful ideas, and I regretted exposing my children to them. I hoped that since they were pre-schoolers, they’d heal and forget quickly; for me, deprogramming was not easy. The list below enumerates the ideas in the Bible and religion that I found to be the most problematic and that would drive me from the religion forever.

10. Anti-education. As a lover of learning, I cannot accept the idea of rejecting education, vaccines, the Theory of Evolution, climate change, human rights, civil rights, or equality. I reject completely the idea that one must “become a fool for God.” I wake up wondering about things, and I fear NO ideas. If I could’ve learned to accept the teachings of religious leaders without question, I could’ve remained in the religion, but I’m an inquirer with an endless craving for new knowledge. Christianity promotes fear of ideas. I embrace open exploration of any and all ideas.

9. Evangelism. The idea that some people need to go all over the world and coerce or force others to bow to the authority of their religious leaders because they have all the answers is so arrogant, it’s ridiculous. One thing in life that I am truly ashamed of and regret is that I proselytized to and tried to convert people to Christianity. Fortunately, many of my hoped-for converts were too smart to fall for the idea that the story of a human sacrifice of a first-century Jew had any relevance for their lives. Unfortunately, I did convince one of my closest childhood friends, and it pains me to this day, especially because she’s still a believer, as far as I know.

8. Patriarchy. The idea that anatomy, rather than knowledge and experience, makes one suitable for leadership is abhorrent and ridiculous. I will respect a man who earns my respect; I reject unequal power relationships based on sex or gender identity.

7. Child abuse. The Bible shows no concern for the well-being of children, and in fact, promotes horrific abuse, including incest, rape, and enslavement.

6. Genocide. The whole plot of the OT is for the Hebrews to secure land and rise to power OVER all other peoples. To this end, the God of the Bible often commands the destruction of neighboring peoples. Jesus says he fully supports OT law & prophets, but Paul introduces the idea that non-Jews (gentiles) should convert to Christianity.

5. Rape culture; there are many rapes in the Bible, but of course, the most celebrated is the rape of Mary, Mother of Jesus, who was not only a child, but was in a committed relationship when she was supernaturally impregnated (like the Greek maidens impregnated by Zeus and other gods in the well-known myths of that region and era).

4. Misogyny. Women in the Bible are portrayed as property and have no agency in their lives.

3. Slavery, including enslavement of children and sexual slavery.

2. Hebrew/Christian supremacy; the idea that a deity has chosen a group of people and condemns those outside the group is used to justify dehumanizing and dominating others.

1. “Sin” is an idea that teaches people self-hatred and self-doubt; the idea that there is something deeply wrong with a natural human being is dangerous for the health of individuals and society.

It has taken me decades to sort these things out for myself, and I owe a debt of thanks to all the former-believers and never-believers who helped me understand the toxic philosophy that is Christianity, and how it dehumanizes and harms individuals and societies.

I write about my journey for two main reasons:

  1. To sort it all out for myself
  2. To help anyone who is suffering

I hope that in telling my story, I, like those who came before me, can shine a light on the path for those who come after me.

Thank you for reading. Take care of yourself and be well.


lisa eddy is a writer, researcher, educator, advocate,  musician, and gardener.

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