Male Violence Against Women

Posted on March 15, 2021

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A Woman’s History in Verse

Physical Violence

The grandfather who raped his daughters and beat his sons.

The grandfather who beat his son.

The father who beat his daughters with belts and shovels.

The science teacher who hit students with a large, oak paddle.

The PE classmate who said, without provocation, “I’m going to rip out your earring,” and then did, injuring my ear. 

The PE classmate who threw a ball at me as I was entering the locker room, knocking me to the ground and causing shortness of breath and a large bruise.

The anonymous men who grabbed at my ass when I rode my bike as a teen.

The boyfriend who violently picked me up and threw me into his car.

The boyfriend who stalked me for 18 months, threatened my life, stole things from my house and car, created a scene at my job, put nails under the tires of cars belonging to people who helped me, followed me to school, to work, to the homes of others, and forced my car off the road, trying to cause an accident. 

The cheating husband who carried home an STD. 

The boyfriend who imprisoned me against my will for hours, by threatening me, threatening suicide.

The record store manager who held me captive, by firmly grasping my shoulders or head when he gave the day’s work assignment.

The man who attacked his ex-wife and threw her against the sofa, so she called me for help; I called the cops, and..the cop told the man, “If she were my ex, I woulda thrown her through the fucking wall.”

The co-worker who came by for a beer after work, then attempted to rape me.

The cop who held my finger while doing fingerprints for a job requirement and said, “I’m going to mess this up so that you will have to come back here again.” And he did. 

The angry man who threw a ball of paper at my face during a Professional Develoment workshop.

Mental Violence

The religious beliefs of original sin, rape-by-deity, and patriarchal rule.

The U.S. laws, policies, and practices that deny bodily autonomy and grant legal, social, and economic privilege to men. 

The misogynist father that called women heifers, called his daughters fat and stupid, discouraged his daughters from education, and said constantly and in many ways that women were absolutely inferior to men.

The K-12 teachers who perpetuated negative stereotypes about girls and women and targeted female students with misogynist harassment. 

The bosses who denied me recognition for my numerous professional achievements: publishing books and articles in my field and making presentations to my professional organizations.

The principal who tried to demand that female employees wear skirts/dresses to work.

Mansplaining my area of expertise by men with no knowledge or experience in the subject.

The male students who made school an unsafe place for students and teachers through gender-based harassment.

The administrators and school board members who refuse to use Title IX, the law, and policies to create a school environment free of gender-based harassment.

Emotional Violence

The Patriarchy.

The belief that human bodies are “sinful” and “shameful.” 

The father who makes the home where girls are silenced through fear of violence.

Slut-shaming.

The men who order women to smile.

Gender policing.

Tone-policing.

Spiritual Violence

The Bible.

The idea that “sin” has corrupted my body and my soul, and that I should feel guilt and shame.

The idea of “sexual purity.” 

The idea that, as a divorced woman, I was a “temptation,” to married men, so I needed to leave the Young Married Group and join the College Student group, even though I was a mother of two young children. 

The date-rapist preacher who visited me under the guise of “spiritual care.” 

Economic Violence

The law that allows a food server to earn a little over two dollars per hour, plus tips.

The construction company owner who paid me half as much as the men I trained to do our job. 

The male coworkers who conspired to cause me short- and long-term economic harm. 

The male bosses and coworkers who used harassment and intimidation to create a hostile environment for girls and women who do not feel safe to make reports against perpetrators, even though there are laws and policies in place for their protection. 


In Women’s History Month 2021, we must not ignore the worldwide epidemic of violence against women.

Right now, the case of Sarah Everard is in the news, as is the police brutality that met the women who turned up for a vigil in memory of her:  

The story of Sarah Everard is the story of what too many women fear… A reminder that no amount of mindfulness, or personal choices, or sensible shoes, can enable a woman to outrun a system that refuses to prioritize and protect her.

BUT EVERY DAY, girls and women are being harmed by harassment and violence from men, and most times, it won’t be reported to authorities, let alone reported in the media. For many girls and women, it is not safe to report.

It’s time for governments and the People of planet earth to make this planet safe, just, and free for all girls and women, once and for all. Violence against women is preventable.

It’s time for the violent oppression of girls and women to end. 


lisa eddy is a writer and editor for-hire, researcher, educator-for-hire, youth advocate, musician, and gardener.

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